The natural order of things

March.2. 2015

Wisdom, I’ve found, has a lot to do with the natural order of things.

What is the natural order of things?

It’s how things work in their natural state.

Take a mountain stream. Left to its own devices, it will find the straightest and most direct path to the ocean.

That’s how streams operate in the natural order of things.

And that’s how we operate too when we gain wisdom.

We begin to act like the mountain stream. We naturally find the straightest and most direct path to our goal.

And usually this means a path of least resistance.

A path of directness of purpose.

A path with only one objective, to reach the ocean.

That’s the simple scenario of working within the natural order of things.

But it gets a little more complicated at the human level.

Because along the way, your directness of purpose and efficiency must not create any resistance.

Because if you create resistance, you bring the forces of the universe against you.

(Think of the resistance as obstructions in your path to the ocean.)

Suppose your directness of purpose has to do with defrauding people, and you’re quite efficient at doing that, and for a moment it might appear that you have been uplifted—you’re living in your fine downtown mansion.

But you can’t defraud people without creating ill will and bad feelings, and this creates resistance in the universe (for you), and you soon find that your uplifting was only temporary.

This is the problem with some people.

They forget that the universe is full of energy and you want that energy to work for you, not against you.

The minute you create bad feelings and ill will, you invite that energy to work against you.

In other words, you’re not working with the natural order of things, and sooner or later, you will find your reality has been downshifted instead of uplifted.

Let’s see how this relates to the guitar.

Let’s say that you’re filled with directness of purpose and efficiency and you practice diligently every day.

But your directness of purpose is to follow someone’s prescriptions for guitar playing rigidly, without considering whether it’s working within the natural order of things in your body.

And the result is resistance within your body.

And sooner or later this resistance will manifest itself in subtle and unsubtle ways.

Subtle—by limiting your technical development and unsubtle—when you start suffering from all kinds of “overuse syndromes.”

(Neither one of which you might call uplifting outcomes.)

There’s, of course, no such thing as overuse syndrome, only misuse and abuse syndromes.

If you work within the natural order of things in your body, you can practice ten hours a day and not experience any ill effects.

To rephrase my original point.

Wisdom, I’ve found, really means understanding how the universe works and working with it in a way that creates least resistance and brings you to your goals simply and efficiently.

Some additional thoughts

February.28. 2015

So is wisdom an intrinsic thing which can only be accessed by people with special ‘talents?’

Can it be imposed from outside?

Can you buy wisdom and become a wise person as a result?

Can you seek a master and become a man of wisdom too?

To answer these questions, let me recount the story of a great musician.

In the middle of a great concert career, he suddenly lost his technique. Somehow, he found he couldn’t play as freely and as naturally as before.

The critics noticed it also, the old brilliance was gone.

This is someone who, as a child, had played to ecstatic crowds from Berlin to New York and then somewhere around age thirty, he suddenly lost his technique.

The story goes that despite his best efforts to try to regain his former technique, he never found it again.

His playing was still great by any standards, but that spark of pure genius, the effortless touch of the prodigy was gone.

So what changed?

Did someone take that wisdom away from his hands and fingers?

Did he wake up one day with new hands and fingers?

No, everything was essentially the same.

Still the same old body, the same hands.

What happened was he had lost the wisdom in his body.

A wisdom he had intuitively found from years of playing and experiencing as a child.

A wisdom that enabled his body to find that sweet spot where everything clicked into place to produce a perfect alignment of hands, fingers, muscles, and mind.

That wisdom had nothing to do with his body or with any innate talent.

Because when it left him, the body was still essentially the same.

And it was unconscious, because if it was conscious, he could have been able to recall it in an instant.

Imagine someone with a deep intimate knowledge of something (his own body) and of a particular body experience (playing the instrument), and yet suddenly not being able to reproduce that experience, no matter how hard he tried.

It just goes to show.

Wisdom can’t be imposed from outside.

It is an internal thing which means no one can give it to you, you’ll have to find it yourself.

It has nothing to do with a particular body or mind.

And it operates at an unconscious level, which means you can’t force it to happen at will.

The second thing

February.20. 2015

So perhaps you think you’ve found the wisdom you’re looking for, but how do you know that it is really ‘it?’

Especially if you’ve been searching a while, you’ve probably experienced a few false alarms along the way.

How do you know you’ve arrived at your goal?

The answer is in the results.

Perhaps you’re looking to play a certain technique on the guitar and for some reason, you’re unable to get what you want.

Your fingers just wouldn’t cooperate.

No matter what you do, you could not produce the effect you’re looking for.

Then one day, by accident, you change something in the way you attack the strings, or the way you hold the thumb and suddenly, voila, you’re able to produce that effect.

The change is instantaneous.

Almost miraculous.

This is what it feels like when you finally stumble onto the truth.

You will see instant results.

But the principle doesn’t only apply to the guitar.

You see the same principle at work in life.

For example, the uplifting power of wisdom creates good positive energy.

When you surround yourself with this positive energy created from your newfound wisdom, you will find that whatever you want to accomplish is suddenly easier.

Consider the carrot vs. the stick approaches.

You can try to force an outcome with a stick but it takes too much effort and involves violence which means that whatever outcome you get, if you get any, is not pretty.

Plus, you create resentment which will come back to haunt you.

But if you use the carrot, it’s effortless and the outcome is filled with positive energy.

That’s because everyone wins in the carrot approach. The other party gets to eat the carrot and you get your outcome.

The reason why you get instantaneous results is because the wisdom to accomplish what you want to accomplish was always within you.

You’re just setting it free.

That great guitar technique was always in your fingers, but may have been locked up by some misalignment in your body and by realigning your body, you’re finally setting it free.

That wisdom within your mind was always there, and by a shift in perception, you’re finally seeing it for the first time.

In other words, that wisdom you were searching for was always within you in the first place, unable to emerge, and when you finally discover the secret, the pivotal principle, you’re finally setting it free.

This is the second thing you need to know on your wisdom journey.

When you find what you’re looking for, it should feel like you’ve come home.

Everything finally feels right, no more struggle.

All the imbalances, the misalignments in your thoughts and body are suddenly resolved and now you’re able to see the whole situation perfectly.

So do not believe those who will try to sell you their ‘wisdom,’ and when you tell them that it’s uncomfortable and unnatural, they tell you to be patient, that it will take time for you to get ‘acclimated’ to it.

The truth is that true wisdom should feel right and work immediately.

You should see the results immediately.

Yes, there will usually be a transitional period, when you’re between the old and the new.

During this time, you will find yourself lapsing back into the old and the old problems will come back again.

So you want to stay vigilant and keep yourself focused on the new in the early stages, and you might have to do this consciously.

But once you solidify your new wisdom state, it should become automatic.

It will become a part of your natural state.

The period of adjustment has nothing to do with acclimating yourself to the new. Rather it’s in making sure that you do not lapse into the old.

The pivot principle

February.7. 2015

Most of the time, in wisdom journeys, you’re just wandering around, trying different options, different approaches, hoping to find the one that will bring you to your destination.

Sometimes you will get lucky and stumble onto the right path by instinct, or by accident.

Sometimes you will have someone else’s road map and know what to look out for and your journey is shortened considerably.

The problem, however, is that when you do find the ‘right’ option, how do you know it’s really the one?

It will look just like every other option. There will be nothing to indicate that this is it, this is the one that will lead you to where you want to go.

Well, there is something that will help give you a clue.

It’s what you might call the pivot principle.

The pivot principle is the one key element that will crystallize all the other elements. When you find this element, the others automatically fall into place.

You might call it the key to the kingdom.

Or the breakthrough principle.

Because it will literally unlock the door to the wisdom you’re searching for.

For instance, in guitar playing, once you find this key element, the other elements will become immediately obvious.

Let’s say you’re searching for your ideal hand position, that sweet spot where playing becomes effortless.

And you don’t know where to start—how should you play with the thumb, what angle do you hold your fingers, should you play from the left side or the right side or square against the strings?

All critical issues which have no answers.

That is until you find this key element.

And when you find it, everything else immediately falls into place.

You will know exactly what to do.

The reason is that nothing works in isolation, everything works together.

For instance, how you play with the thumb will impact your fingers, will impact the angle of your attack, will impact the direction of your strokes, which will in turn impact how you play with your thumb.

And there are no clear answers until you find that one principle that clarifies everything else.

The same principle applies in life.

Many times, you will struggle with a seemingly intractable problem until one day, almost miraculously, you stumble onto the one concept that will put everything else into focus.

And you know exactly what to do.

So most of the time, our search for wisdom is to find this one principle that unlocks all the others.

And the only way to find it is to keep searching.

To never give up.

And to understand that the journey can take years.

Sometimes I hear the word ‘frustrated’ in connection with a particular search.

‘Frustrated’ indicates that the person has certain expectations of finding what he’s looking for quickly and when he doesn’t find it, he gets ‘frustrated.’

Unfortunately, the search for wisdom does not follow any schedule, especially not one that you set. It will happen when it happens, and until it happens, you keep on searching.

This is the reason why wisdom is a rare commodity, because it takes so much time and effort.

But the payoff is immense.

Because when you find it, life (and whatever goal you’ve set for yourself) becomes effortless.

Next, the second thing you need to know on your wisdom journey.

A simple guide to embarking on a wisdom journey

January.26. 2015

Wisdom journeys are filled with pitfalls.

First, the incredible (one can say even infinite) array of possibilities out there.

Just to take one example, if you’re searching for that great guitar technique, there’re an infinite number of ways to hold your hand, to strike the strings, etc.

Or if you’re searching for success in life, there’re an infinite number of choices lying ahead of you.

How do you know what combination of factors is the right one, the one that will give you that great technique you’re searching for, or lead you to that fulfilling abundant life of your dreams?

To complicate things, there will be false prophets at every turn who will obfuscate the situation and mislead you with half-truths and/or false ‘truths.’

And some of them will be very persuasive.

How do you separate the true prophets from the imposters?

(True prophets being those who will help bring you to your destination, imposters those who will lead you astray, mostly to serve their own interests.)

To help you navigate the treacherous waters of wisdom seeking, I’ve come up with this simple guide to help you on your journey.

Keep in mind this is just a guide and not a prescription.

Before we start, let’s define what true wisdom is.

True wisdom has one basic component.

It uplifts you.

“Uplift” here has no moral connotations.

It simply means that it has a positive impact on what you do and brings you to a higher plane of existence, hence the word ‘uplift.’

For instance, in guitar playing, it makes your playing better.

In life, it helps you achieve greater success in whatever you do.

The basic premise is that when we achieve progress in what we do, we move to a higher level of existence, in other words, we’re ‘uplifted.’

An additional clarification.

The wisdom we’re talking about here is simple practical wisdom, the kind that helps you get the job done, become a better person, succeed at a venture, perhaps play better guitar…

No sagelike wisdom or anything of the sort.

So how is wisdom different from knowledge?

The first difference is the uplift component.

Knowledge can bring you up or down–it does not need to have the uplift component.

(This explains why so many smart people do dumb things. Knowledge does not equal wisdom.

Knowledge that uplifts is sometimes also called wisdom.)

The second difference is that knowledge is conscious while wisdom is mostly unconscious.

For example, being able to play the guitar requires tapping into the wisdom of your body which is unconscious.

Unconscious because it’s a part of your psyche, your being.

It operates in the background without you being aware of it.

The third difference is that knowledge comes from without while wisdom comes from within.

For example, teachers give you knowledge.

But practice gives you wisdom.

A teacher can give you the knowledge to execute a particular move but until you gain the wisdom in your body to execute that move, you will never fully understand that knowledge.

This is what the great teachers mean when they say we must look inside ourselves, not outside, for our own salvation (or enlightenment).

Next, the two things you need before you can reach your goal of attaining wisdom.

To set the record straight

January.10. 2015

This is something I had never expected, people crawling out of the woodwork claiming they were my teachers.

I’m not sure how to take this.

Should I take it as a compliment?

A sign of success? After all, if I was a dismal failure, I doubt there would be anyone trying to take credit.

The first time I encountered the problem was when someone in Kuala Lumpur told me that there’s this teacher in town who was going around telling people he was my teacher.

The funny thing is, I had never met the guy, not then, not now.

I had heard he studied in London with the famous pedagogue, Wyndham Waffle. Other than that I have no clue who this imposter is.

And now there’s this old schoolmate who is going around saying I was his “first student.”

My recollections of this person are rather hazy but I remember he had always been a friendly (or unfriendly) rival back in the day, and he was always trying to catch up with me, even back then.

Great strategy—to make yourself feel better, tell people you ‘taught’ the other guy.

Now, why should these things bother me?

Because I can’t have every Tom, Dick, and Harry try to rewrite history at my expense.

After all, they say if you tell a lie often enough, people will actually start to believe it.

And to dissuade any would-be loser from staking any more claims on me.

So to set the record straight.

I have had only three guitar teachers in my life.

David Wong Hie Bing who gave me my first lessons in Sibu, Colin Henderson of Burnside High School, Christchurch, NZ, who nurtured my playing, and Karl Herreshoff aka David Hagemeister, of Nights in the Garden of Spain fame who inspired me to become an artist.

The rest are imposters, to put it kindly.

Or losers, to put it less kindly.

The Great David Hagemeister

January.7. 2015

Gina Berriault is not a household name by any means. In fact, I had never heard of her until I read her short story, “Nights in the Gardens of Spain.”

You can read the story here.

The story is about a guitar teacher in the San Francisco Bay Area and his protégé’s encounter with the famous Spanish guitarist, Tomas Torres.

While the bulk of the story deals with the teacher’s struggles to come to terms with his own lackluster career as a player, the story is really about the young boy who had been selected to play for the master.

The boy played well for Torres, but was underwhelmed by the self-important pompous Spanish guitar master and decided not to go to Palermo to study with him and opted instead to go to Mexico City to study with a guitarist by the name of Salinas.

Great story.

Ms Berriault, however, failed to mention a few details about the boy.

Named David Frederick Hagemeister III, the young boy featured in the story was actually the descendant of an offspring of an illicit union between a court lady and a captain in the court of King Frederick the Great. The king loved the boy so much he named the boy after him.

That’s where the ‘Frederick’ in David Frederick Hagemeister III came from.

Somehow, after the king died, the illegitimate offspring and/or his descendants (I’m not clear about the details) made his way to the New World where he established a boat building business on the East Coast.

But one of his descendants ended up in San Diego and later San Francisco, which is where the story took place.

So what happened to the boy after he went to Mexico?

Let’s see if we can continue where Ms Berriault left off.

After his time in Mexico, David Hagemeister, the young boy went on to attain quite a bit of success as a classical guitarist. But his independent streak and refusal to accept authority meant that true success would elude him.

He did get to teach at a few colleges but did not survive long at any of them, nobody liked an independent thinker, especially not college bureaucrats.

In his thirties, Maestro Hagemeister spent a few years in New Zealand where he taught a number of aspiring young guitar players there, among them an impressionable young player from Borneo.

To make the plot more believable, let’s say that the guitar player from Borneo himself ended up in South Texas sometime after that.

But here’s the icing on the cake:

David’s teacher in Mexico, called Salinas, was actually a Dutchman who had studied with the great Maestro Miguel Llobet, who in turn was the star student of the father of the modern guitar, Francisco Tarrega.

A direct line to the great Tarrega.

David Hagemeister passed away in 2006.

Sometime ago, the student from Borneo, living in South Texas, managed to have a phone conversation with David’s mother, a few months before she passed on too.

The mother was 94 years old and living by herself in a beach house in Hawaii as a Zen monk. (Yes, you can say independent streaks ran in the family.)

It was a good conversation. And he was happy he could talk to her. She was quite broken up by the death of her famous son, but remained philosophical.

It’s a good story, quite implausible, of course.

The paradox of paradise

January.1. 2015

Every religion seems to have its own vision of the afterlife, of paradise, but they seem to tell more about the people who came up with the visions than the afterlife itself.

For example, people who are downtrodden dream of a paradise where they will be free. Case in point, the spirituals of the old South.

People who are poor, for them paradise is a place where they will attain a position higher than the rich. Case in point, the parable about Lazarus and the rich man.

And people who are beset with problems in their present life dream of a trouble-free and carefree paradise where they don’t have to work, where all they do is laze around serenaded by angels playing harps. That seems to be the definition for the rest of us.

So what does this say about those who dream of 72 virgins waiting for them in paradise? Clearly, lust is no barrier to paradise too

Somewhere in the Philippines, on some mountain, is a paradise on earth—filled with beautifully manicured gardens and pretty maidens presided over by the Son of God himself.

But who takes care of the gardens? Surely not the Son of God, he’s too busy consorting with the maidens.

I can just imagine some guy arriving at the paradise on earth to be greeted by the Son of God.

“Welcome to paradise, I have both good news and bad news. The good news is you’re in paradise, the bad news is you’re the gardener.”

The paradox of paradise. It can’t feel much like paradise if your job is to slave over the gardens.

Or some pretty maiden arriving at the afterlife to be greeted by another keeper of paradise.

“Welcome to paradise, I have both good news and bad news. The good news is you’re in paradise and the bad news is your job is to service some scruffy guy who has just laid down his life for the cause.”

Our concepts of paradise are so banal my local parish priest constantly makes jokes about it.

My favorite is this one.

Three guys arrived in heaven to be greeted by St Peter.

The first one came up and St Peter asked him. “So were you ever unfaithful to your wife?”

The man was full of remorse as he said, “Yes, but only three times.”

St Peter said, “Because you were unfaithful three times, you only get a compact car to drive in heaven.”

The second guy came up and St Peter asked him the same question and he answered, “Only two times, St Peter.”

“Okay,” St Peter said. “Two times, you get to have a medium sized car to drive in heaven.”

The third one came up and when asked the same question, he said proudly, “Not even once, I was a faithful husband all my life.”

St Peter said, “Well done my son, you get to drive a luxury car in heaven.”

Two weeks later, the first two guys met the guy with the luxury car at a stoplight in heaven and they noticed he was crying.

So they asked him, “Why are you crying? You should be happy, you have a luxury car to drive.”

He said, “I just saw my wife, she’s on a skateboard.”


December.4. 2014

You may have experienced this before.

You’re going through life perfectly happy, content with the way things are going, and then one day, something happens, and you experience a seismic shift in perception, and something you have never seen before suddenly becomes very clear to you.

Perhaps it has to do with a particular problem in life.

Or a deep philosophical issue.

(Or a guitar technique that’s been troubling you.)

When that moment occurs, it’s almost as if you’ve broken through a barrier.

One minute you’re on one side, the next, you’re on the other.

Now the amazing thing is, before the shift occurs, you have absolutely no idea what lies on the other side or that the barrier even exists.

But once it occurs, it’s as if it’s the most natural thing to have happened.

This is the greatest irony of life, the ultimate catch-22.

In order to get to the other side of the barrier, you’ll have to know it exists, but to know it exists, you’ll have to get to the other side first.

The only way, I’ve found, to break the cycle is to experience that life changing moment, that seismic event that alters your perceptions dramatically.

It happened to St Paul on his way to Damascus. (Yes, I know this is a mythical event but it does illustrate the point).

And it happened to me a few years back when I was involved in a minor mishap on the road.

And I’ve seen it happen to my students a few times.

I believe a particular group of religious adherents might call this moment ‘being born again,’ and that’s perhaps a good way to describe the experience. (This, however, does not imply in any way that I agree or disagree with the appropriateness of those terms to describe that particular experience.)

Enquiring minds want to know

November.8. 2014

So I see they have a new show on CNN called “This is Life.”

Riveting show.

I love seedy exposés and it does show Ms Ling’s obsessions. Or is it just good marketing?

We all know the Law of Sweeps Week.

Find the juiciest stories, make sure there’s plenty of s*x and titillating shots, because it’s all about ratings, baby.

Yes, Ms Ling’s obsessions.

Apparently, every week is Sweeps Week for her.

One week it’s about sugar daddies and the losers who live off them.

Then it’s strippers.

So whose life is this?

What about custodians? Or nurses? Or schoolteachers? Are they not living lives worthy of a little exposé too?

Not according to Ms Ling.

This week, it’s strippers. I’m guessing lapdancers are on next week.

The once proud CNN, now reduced to sleaze merchant. As they say, enquiring minds want to know.


Update: November 27, 2014

Inadvertently, while surfing channels the other day, I happened to see the talented and beautiful Ms Ling in action again.

I would’ve skipped to the next channel, but what was this?

She’s interviewing a Catholic priest! No lapdancers but a priest instead. Thinking that I owe Ms Ling an apology, I decided to listen in on the conversation.

And surprise, surprise!

Instead of some profound spiritual discourse that you might expect with a man of the cloth, the conversation was about intimacy (translation: S*X) and dating.

Ah, Ms Ling’s obsessions.

Guess no apology needed.


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