Unlike other forms of energy, love’s energy does not work in unilateral ways.
For example, gravity is unilateral.
It’s always there, it requires nothing from you. You want to tap into it, just create the right conditions and it will work for you effortlessly.
But not the energy of love.
The energy of love operates as a flow, as an exchange of energy rather than a one-sided affair.
In order to access it, you must first release some yourself.
You can try to access this energy simply by demanding it, or you can try to force it to come to you, but you will not succeed.
In fact, the more you demand or force that energy to come to you, the less of it will come.
Instead, you access the energy by first producing it yourself.
And then spreading it around, and over time, this energy that you send out will begin to attract other like energy and soon you will be surrounded by it.
And the great thing is, it’s a totally dynamic and responsive thing.
The more energy you send out, the more you receive.
It works in reverse too, if you’re stingy with your love energy, you will expect the universe to be stingy with its love energy too.
Perhaps one of the best lessons of love’s energy is one I learned from my mother.
One day, on one of my annual trips to Borneo, she said to me, “Go and look at that plant in the corner. It’s such a nuisance. I’ve tended and looked after it for over a year and still nothing, not even a flower. If it’s not going to grow any flowers, just pull it out and throw it into the rubbish.”
That’s the lesson of love’s energy in a nutshell.
Love exists in a dynamic exchange.
To tap it, you must be generous with your own energy first.
If you’re stingy with it, if you give nothing back, you risk stopping its flow.
Which leads us to our first observation.
Unlike what people say, love is conditional.
There’s no such thing as non-conditional love.
Love always operates as an exchange. It will only come if it goes out (or as the Chinese say, “got come, got go”).
But how about a little baby?
What can the baby give you to deserve that love?
If you have to ask that question, you’ve probably never experienced the love in those tiny fingers. That love may not be a conscious type of love, but it is no less powerful than more conscious manifestations.
Or how about a plant?
I know I’ve used the example of tending to a plant many times. (Now you know where the examples come from, my mother is an avid gardener)
Notice how the more love you pour out on a plant, the more it responds, not directly but indirectly, by blooming beautiful flowers for you, filling your garden or apartment with its fresh scent of love.
So the secret is simple.
If you want to harness the energy of love, you must first give it out yourself, spread love all around you, and soon, you will be basking in an abundance of love and goodwill.
And whatever you want to accomplish in the universe will be done effortlessly and miraculously.
All that love surrounding you will do it for you.
There’ve been many attempts to explain this energy.
The law of attraction, karma, reaping what you sow.
They all describe the same thing.
Which is that if you want the universe to work for you, if you want to tap into all its abundant energy, all you need to do is invest in a little bit of that positive energy they call love.
As an aside, if you’re one of those sorry people who are stingy with love, and you want to hoard it all for yourself, well, that’s really a dumb way to love yourself.
Because if you’re not generous with your love, that’s all you will have eventually, your small measly pittance.
No amount of love you think you have can be measured with the infinite amount of love in the universe. If you’re generous with your love, it will be returned to you a hundredfold.
Isn’t it better to access all that energy rather than try to hold on to what little you have?