Winners are losers

June.1. 2013

Winning is good, we all want to win. But winning sometimes does have their unintended consequences – you end up losing.

I suppose the experts in this area are Lance Armstrong, or Bernie Madoff.

But the phenomenon occurs in life too.

You’ve probably noticed people in your life who always want to win in any argument. And they usually do, but who wants to be around with them after that?

I had a friend in school. He was the poster child of winning, if ever there was one. He always had to be Number One. Even when I played duets with him, he would insist he take the first part and I take the second.

I let him win, I played second part, but soon after that I stopped playing with him. Who wants to play second fiddle all the time?

And then there was Khadafy or Qaddafi who ended up in the sewer. One minute, omnipotent ruler, the next, hunted down like a rat in a sewer.

Yes, he won big and he lost big.

So is winning bad?

Not really.

The problem with winning is that it usually involves some loser or losers somewhere.

And there’s nothing worse than having some unhappy loser out there.

I see some analogies between winning and stealing.

When you win, you usually do it at the expense of someone else.

You’re stealing someone else’s victory.

And that someone else will want to get even with you. It could be as simple as just avoiding you after that, or hunting you down in a sewer, or spilling the beans about your doping.

So the solution is simple.

When you win, make sure others win with you. Make it a win-win situation.

Never win at the expense of someone else.

This makes winning harder, because it’s a lot easier to steal from others.

But it’s worth it.

And it’s possible.

Look at guys like Bill Gates, who won big and the world won with them.

Or any of the other innovators or businessmen who came up with a great product or service and made life better for all of us and in the end became super winners themselves too.

And sometimes, it’s good to let other people win too, especially if you’ve already won.

That was Lance Armstrong’s mistake. He got greedy.

How many Tour de France trophies does one man need?

Or for that matter, how much money does one man need?

Since Qaddafi is no longer around, I guess the next best person to answer this question is Bernie Madoff.


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